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Sister Helpless/Overwhelmed

Author: Anonymous (Orange County)
Posted: 11/29/2013 @ 2:42 pm
Sister is manic depressive/slightly schizophrenic. On SS disability 20 years. Cannot/will not work. Has driven away all family members w/erratic and horrendous behavior. She lives in a Newport Beach trailer park, always way behind in rent. Husband (shhh, she is not supposed to be married, so we can't say she is married) is a crack addict and beats her when her SS check is deposited. Terribly depressed, no food in house, diabetic, with multiple serious health issues. I live 3,000 miles away, I'm Stage IV cancer patient with little time left and not in a position to assist her due to my cancer issues. I've recommended she contact a social services counselor to 1)find a smaller apartment that is more afforadable 2) get assistance for her severe mental state 3)how to deal with beatings from drug addicted spouse and 4)drive her to medical appts as she has not vehicle and cannot drive to a busstop. I have stated I will call authorities and she begs me not to. I personally cannot continue in dialogue with her -- I need my strength to deal with day to day life as a sarcoma patient. Is there an agency in Orange County that can assist her or help her get back on track? Everything I suggest is replied with "I can't", "I won't". My husband begs me to not answer the phone; I am tired of her making me feel guilty. This is not my fault and there is nothing more I can do. Any agencies out there that deal with this mess?
Author: Kathy Sterbenc ( Social Network of Care )
Posted: 11/29/2013 @ 2:50 pm


Thank you for writing. We will work to find an agency that can assist your sister in Orange County. I will write again as soon as we have gotten some feedback from our sponsoring agency, Orange County Adult Mental Health Services.

In the meantime, I wish you and your family a restful weekend.


Kathy Sterbenc

Network of Care

Author: Alex ( Social Network of Care )
Posted: 12/02/2013 @ 2:49 pm


Thank you for contacting the Network of Care. A good place to start would be to phone the OC Links Info and Referral Line at 855-625-4657.   Trained staff are available to link you to proper services. You can also find more information on their web site, at: If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact us again.


Alex Halpern, Content Manager

Trilogy/Network of Care

1101 Fifth Ave., Suite 250

San Rafael, CA 94901

Phone: (415) 458-5900

Fax: (415) 256-9036